This is connected to my earlier problem, but not really love advice so to speak...
Basically, after a few days of agonising and pushing from my older brother and close friends, I plucked up the courage and confessed my feelings to her. She said she loved me...as a friend. Okay, I pretty much expected that in all honesty. She apologised in case I felt she was leading me on, but I basically said she has nothing to apologise for, I kind of guessed anyway and I mainly said it so I didn't feel like I was hiding anything from her; that I wanted to be honest with her.
The first couple of days after that were fine, we just dropped the subject entirely and talked about what we usually would. However, I noticed that she was more hesitant around me and now it's got to the point that when I try and talk to her on MSN for example, she just doesn't reply at all sometimes.
I honestly don't know what to do. She has been a good friend of mine for years and now I fear I've ruined that because I decided to tell her how I felt. My friends keep telling me that I did the right thing, that these feelings would have eaten me up if I hadn't said something, but now I honestly wish I hadn't said anything - I value her as a person and a friend much more than a potential partner and I feel that I've royally ruined this one. I was scared this would happen, which is why I was so reluctant to tell her. Back when I was at college, I was in a similar situation where I realised I had feelings for a really close friend, I confessed and she hasn't said a word to me since (and that was 3 years ago).
I just have no idea what to do. I'm frightened about the prospect of giving her space in case the gap grows like it did with that girl three years before, but I don't want to make her talk if she doesn't want to. Although I do still love her and being with her would be beyond a dream come true, I just want to be able to have that close friendship we once had - I at least want her by my side as a friend...I'm scared about losing even that.