Just curious - people say that when it comes to love, age doesn't matter. However, let's take a couple who's 10 years apart. Yeah, when it's a couple who's 35 and 25 I guess that's acceptable, but no one would allow a 15 year old love a 25 year old, right? Anyone tell me when would be the most approprite age to start saying "age doesn't matter when it comes to love"??
So long as both people are consenting adults, it's fine. And even then it's situational. I have a friend who met her husband at the age of 15. Three years later, she got married to him. He's 37. And they're very happy together.
Okay, yeah, it was a little creepy, but I felt better about it because both of them were mature, responsible people. That made the age thing more bearable.
But I agree with Ryuu, as long as both people are mature and responsible, and they are both consenting adults. I don't exactly see a problem with it. My grandma and her first husband were over 25 years apart in age.
I guess. Cuz just looking at the age gap, depending on whether both are adults or not, it could be known as a romantic story... or end up as one getting shoved in jail charged for being pedophile...
Ok, so I'm having a problem with my girlfriend's parents. I actually talked with my girlfriend's parents for the first time yesterday. It was the typical "don't get my daughter pregnant" type deal. Then, her dad said "Whatever you do to my daughter, I'll do to you. You touch her, I'll touch you. If you want me to grab you and kiss you on the lips, kiss her." (That one especially weirded me out because we had actually kissed for the first time earlier that day.) I know he was trying to intimidate me, but it didn't really work. (He's barely bigger than I am, actually.) He didn't intimidate me, he just kinda weirded me out. When you stare death in the face, not much scares you. He's also Italian, and he thinks he's the best etnicity there is. And I'm Irish, so... Anyway, my parents are saying they think I should break up with my girlfriend. They don't think I should put up with her parents. I really don't want to break up with her, though. We've just started getting a little more serious. Do you think our relationship would be worth dealing with creepy, over protective parents?
Think about it. If someday you had a daughter, a beautiful and precious daughter, and some strange boy came in and started pursuing her... wouldn't you:
A. want to protect her, and never let anything harm your baby girl
B. Play that funny weird dad role up just a little, for the fun of messing with some random kid's head
Wouldn't you? I'd want to do both! I wouldn't want my kid to get hurt, and I'd have a ball screwing with some kid's mind in the process of protecting my daughter. Hey, if you put up with her parents oddness, eventually they'll let up a little and see that if you're willing to go through them... you must really care about their daughter.
Okay, so there's this girl. She and I have known each other our whole lives (I'm eighteen, she's seventeen), and I'm pretty sure I've been in love with her that whole time. Just the other night, I finally got up the nerve to actually tell her so. She was surprised at first, but seemed to recover quickly and told me she thought that was sweet of me to say.
Thing is, I'm pretty sure she still has a boyfriend. When I asked her about him before, she talked as though their relationship wasn't "serious", but I couldn't be sure if I was misinterpreting. Aware of this possibility, I said prior to my confession that the timing was probably inappropriate, but I didn't know if I'd get another chance (this girl is awfully hard to get a hold of due to scheduling conflicts). And afterward, I made sure to let her know that I didn't necessarily expect my confession to change anything between us, and that I just thought she had a right to know. She just thanked me for telling her and didn't say anything further on the subject—I had to leave shortly thereafter to get to my Japanese language class.
The following day, we briefly met in a hallway at her high school where I was auditioning for a musical. She was as bubbly and friendly as ever, as though nothing had happened. We didn't get a chance to discuss this in-depth, though—we only had enough time to greet each other, and for her to wish me luck again with the audition, before she had to leave.
Best I can figure, she seems okay with my having deeper feelings for her, but she hasn't given me any indication as to what exactly that implies. If anyone can help me decode this, I would be most grateful.
My biggest advice for people dating in highschool and are young:
Never say the "Love" word unless you have been dating for a long while. It may seem like just a word but girls perceive it differently and it is as binding as any contract if you are foolish enough to use it without knowing what it means.
If you are young, date for experience, not for actual life partners. Your still young so date to find out what you want that special someone to be like. The worst thing you could probably do is date someone for all 4 years of high school as horrible as that may sound.
Try dating people with similar interests/personality. It may be fun at first dating different personality people but its like drinking a ice cold smoothie. At first you are like "Mmm this is really good, I'm glad I did this." But when you start to discover that you guys have nothing in common, you get the brainfreeze and shit falls apart.