Why people say stop looking for love and let find you?

I am a guy who has never been in a relationship. At age 20 I have was looking for a girlfriend and I could not find it and people have told me to stop looking. And they say If I keep on looking for it I will never find it. So three years ago at the age of 24 I stopped looking and got on with enjoying my life and today at age 27 it has still not happened and people say just enjoy my life and say if it meant to happen, it will.

Love has still not found me at all and If i end up being single all my life, I will be so angry because life without relationship for me is so unfair. I be so angry if I end up being single for the whole of my life.

Well, from personal experience, they're right. If you constantly try for a relationship, it won't come to you. Have you tried dating sites such as E-Harmony or Match.com? Besides, you still have time to find someone. :) Have you tried meeting someone through mutual friends or going out in public places? There are many ways to find someone. However, being desperate and constantly searching does turn off girls. Just don't fret, and like everyone says 'if it's meant to be, it will".

My view on the "don't look" idea is that: You don't go to those speed dating things, you don't approach anyone with the sole intention of dating them, etc. You do things you like with lots of people. Be it going to conventions, gamer meetings, etc. Make friends there, or talk with mutual friends. Somewhere in the web, you're likely to find someone date-worthy. It will feel more natural, and (for me personally) it's more comfortable. As an example, it's easier to talk to someone about Pokemon at a Pokemon meet-up, than it is to sit in an ambiguous environment and say, "So.....what are you in to?"

This is my kind of strategy.

See, I just do absolutely nothing and see if anything happens.

Nothing's happened yet, but maybe someday I'll get in some sort of relationship. That would be neat.

I would rather suggest you not to give up. Doing nothing will yield nothing. Keep going - it's just that the perfect girl hasn't appeared yet. You have plenty of time - get to know people, make loads of friends, be socially active, and develop good relationships with people. Someday, you might be surprised to see that someone very close to you would be 'the one'.

Doing nothing will only make things harder than it should be. If you want to raise a family in your 20s instead of your 30s, keep on searching.

I know how you feel. I've actually had a boyfriend once before, and that relationship lasted a few years, but we still broke up. I miss having love and I would also like to have it again. I currently do have a crush (and he knows I like him so much, actually), but he has yet to return my feelings. He hasn't said that he loves me, but he hasn't said that he doesn't either. And I know he's single. So I've got a chance...

This reminds me though, awhile back, I got this fortune in a fortune cookie that said "happiness comes when you're not looking for it."

I know exactly how you feel, however, I wouldn't dwell on this all the time. This is because it drove me to the point of considering to commit suicide due to the depression it generated. It's incredibly painful, and I suggest that you don't put this as your number 1 priority in life. The same could happen to you.

Instead, just focus on your career, take care of your own health, and remove excess negative baggage from the past. A good idea also would be to get involved in social events focusing on your common interests. Though they are in low numbers, there are single girls who are interested in Pokemon and things of that nature.

I'd say you should try, although it's a huge pain in the @** if you keep failing over and over. I can't do it right now, but you probably could.

It's like looking for that special leaf in a garden full of trees. You can't let time or age or logic decide on who you like, but that depends on you, really, but my opinion of love is this: If you keep looking for that someone with characteristics like 'knows how to cook', 'is beautiful and admired by many', 'very intelligent and smart and all-knowing and witty and funny', then you're never going to find her. Sometimes, the person you end up with will be someone you never expected. So just go with the flow and let love find you. :)Hope I helped with your conflict in some way.

I stopped looking for love in high school, i accepted that I was just not pretty enough to be loved by anyone. That summer between high school and college I met the most beautiful girl and she and I became so close. We've been together two years now, and i love her to bits. ♥

When I was looking for a boyfriend, I found an asshole.

When I wasn't looking and not even wanting anyone atm.. he found me.. and I couldn't be happier.

I'm not convinced there is such a thing. It sure has not found me ever.

Just focus on making the best of the situation that you're in at the moment... Try to enjoy being single, and eventually love will find you. Then big changes happen :p

Well...I've tried both looking indirectly and directly, and well...none of that has turned out well at all. To be honest, with my mate it happened when he least expected it, and well, unless you're an alpha male like me, it'll catch you off-guard. Of course, that won't happen with me but that happened with most of the peopel I've met :P

All I can say to you is this; YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE, GET OUT THERE AND ENJOY IT AND WHAT'S MEANT TO HAPPEN WILL