Thread: What do you prefer in your special someone?

I see a lot of people voted for personality. That is important. Anyone that's nice, calm, and not weird I can get along with.

Originally Posted by samurott503

I see a lot of people voted for personality. That is important. Anyone that's nice, calm, and not weird I can get along with.

Probably the most important.

Kindness is what I want the most when it comes to women.

I need somebody that is laid back. I have been in. If too many relationships that are with people just over possessive and quick to jump to conclusions before hearing the story.

Physical wise.... First thing I noticed is short hair. I have only been with one girl who had long hair. I love short hair.

After that nothing really else is important to me haha.

Primary: I tend to look for a balance of looks, personality, and values.

Secondary: Good cook could come into play a little. Acceptance ranks high too. Loyalty is one of my greatest values so I expect the same from a relationship.

There are these sort of things I see on Facebook that very closely mirror what I want in a boyfriend:



Yes, all this, and intelligent and able to deal with my crazy. Sorry I'm so silly and specific. :/ Females were biologically designed to be the choosers in the dating scene, so I'm functioning properly.

Well with previous experience, I am a very busy workaholic type of girl. Looks are very important to me and loyalty but I can't stand lovely dovey ness

So for me looks, similar interests and that's about it. Main 2 points and then again their body doesn't hurt ;)

She needs to be older. I dunno what it is with me right now, but anyone that's 24-27 years old right now is the perfect age for some reason. I can't settle with anyone that's 19-22 years old, and its driving me nuts. For some reason those in that age group pay much more attention to me and show much more interest in me and who I am, and couldn't give a damn in the world that I'm not good looking or awkward. It could be a sympathetic disillusion that the worlds giving me, but the discussions and the way they unfold both physically and mentally are much more natural and romantic then the discussions I would have with someone my age. I don't mind at all if I do go with someone now, really not into long term dating my mindset is still in the 6 mths 1 year area, that's 19-21, but I would love it if I get into something with an older woman.

She doesn't need to be smoking hot, but at least good looking and almost proud looking. You know that 24 year old girl that passes by you, gives you a smile, and you can't figure out 5 minutes later why you didn't talk to her when she slowed down her pace? Yeah, women like that drive me nuts. Good lord more so then just a smoking hot body, and smugness. She has to be a breath stopper, a one in a thousand lightning strike that will force the fuck out of you some sort of convo.

Assertiveness. Not the aggressive get into bed with me now type of assertiveness, but a flirtatious, oh no I don't mind your hand being on my chair type of assertiveness. She also has to be grounded, and a very quick thinker. Mutual on the tip of your toe convos are something I long for, a good mental workout with the SO.

I'm unattached right now, but I want a girl I can have an adventure with. Someone that I can go across Europe with and have fun with each other. My ideal woman is caring, loving, nice, sweet, the kind of girl you find yourself falling in love with every day. A beautiful personality transcends looks, and I feel that if I find a girl who I feel I want to spend the rest of my life with, then how they look won't matter.

Someone who can make me laugh, smile and feel good.
Someone who I can trust and talk to.
Someone who accepts my flaws, little or big.

Right, now that I'm not tired, and fully conscious, I can give a more detailed answer.

Speaking with honesty, I've never been in any real relationships. The causes are various: Social awkwardness, being very shy, not being proactive enough, etc. The point is I haven't had a girlfriend ever.

A couple of years ago, that would have bothered me a lot. It was dring those years that I was the most depressed about that subject. I don't know what I was looking for back then. Maybe I was simply desperate.

The point is that in these last two years I have matured somewhat (Just a bit). And have realized that being in a relationship is not the same as being in love. And that I was a fool for being so rushed in trying to enter a relationship (Thank godness I was a huge failure at that. I could have created great damage).

As for what I look for in a romantic partner, wel, as I said: i haven't been in a relationship, so I can't say with certainty what I'm looking for specifically. But the things at the beggining of the post are true.

I could also add to the list that I'm looking for someone with a strong and loyal personality. Someone who doesn't abandon you no matter what. And also someone with an intelligent and critical personality, willing to point out my flaws and mistakes.

I'm looking more for personality and intelligence. Looks are just a plus.

I just want someone that has a charming personality someone who is very laid back and doesn't let simple things bother them,has a good sense of humor but knows when to be serious, someone I could just cuddle with and spend the day watching movies with, someone whose okay with having a non sexual relationship,someone who is okay with my weight, I prefer men/woma that are about 2 or 3 years older then me, I also like someone who is tall,someone who doesn't get jealous easily,someone who knows when to let me have my alone time when I need it,someone that can comfort me during my depression,and someone who can deal with my mood swings oh and someone who knows how to keep a conversation going and interesting

my chances of finding a guy/girl like that is very slim since I'm shy as hell to even talk to someone
plus I can't see anyone falling in love with me, I'm the type of girl that people see just as a friend and nothing more

I wish I could find myself a beautiful, nerdy (especially in Pokemon xD), sexy girl with beautiful eyes and nice hair. A girl that doesn't call me stuff like 'boo' or 'best bf evaar </3' and etc all the time. Sure the best boyfriend ever is a nice thing to hear, no doubt, but it becomes a bit annoying to me. Eventually call me 'honey' or 'darling' but mostly as if joking, basically, I want to be treated like the friendzoned best friend but in a relationship. Fooling around, showing our childness together yet give space to each other, not clingy (like having to call her every hour or having to call, or even 'hold my hand if you love me' but let me be clear, holding hands is nice), faithful and trust worthy, a girl that loves watching sports as much as I do (bonus to even do it), feminine but with a bit of tomboy...a girl that wants to have children (I mean come on...I'm daddy material xD)...Someone who accepts my flaws. She needs to have intelligence and needs to be wise. Sense of humour (can make and silly innocent and not harmful pranks but if pranked can take it as well as if it was her doing...basically someone who isn't an hypocrite).
Similar interests is also a must, one of the most obvious things you want in someone. A girl that loves staying at home but enjoys getting out every once in awhile, doesn't demand expensive vacations or clothing. Someone that can be simple and have simple tastes. Someone that when the relationship anniversary comes doesn't need a gift but instead wants to hang out somewhere nice (of course I would buy her gifts if I found something nice or something she wanted). Cooking isn't an issue for me, hell, I would try cooking with her and hate the food at beginning and jokingly talk trash about it and improve. What, she's a really picky eater? Well so am I, that's my biggest flaw. I just want to be really happy with her, make her laugh, able to make me laugh and all that bla bla bla I mentioned. To trust and be trusted in anything.
I don't know if there's something else to add, but I guess this would be enough. There's so many things, but I guess I named them all. Oh, right, someone with a nice job with a nice paycheck. Not that I wanna depend on her, but it would help if both of us had a job and that it would be enough to live together with no problems and be able to afford stuff. For example, like I mentioned already, having kids. Money is important if those appear. :P
But above my ranting about what I want, I want to be what she wants, and I want to be someone's dude who thinks she's beautiful all the time and says she's beautiful when I think it's right and mean it, I want to be her support, someone that with a bad joke attempt can bring a smile to her face because I would never ever want to see my girlfriend sad...IF I HAD ONE!! I would want to be her perfect so that she would never leave me.
Oh well...After looking at this list...conclusion might be forever alone T_T
And I prefer them younger than me. If a bit older I could make an exception. =P
And sex is important of course, but, well...I don't want someone who needs it desperately or someone who doesn't need it in her life unless she's feeling it. I don't know how to explain this, i quit. xD

I'm in a position where I don't really give a shit, like I feel like fairly adaptable like I could probably function with most girls provided they're not completely unbearable you get me. xD

(Then again, beggars can't be choosers...)

I would like a person who is well - groomed. It may seem shallow for me to say that, but how well - groomed a person is makes a first impression.

But even more than that, I want a person who is confident, not arrogant, as well as a person who is intelligent(sensible, practical at times, wise). And, obviously, a person who will talk to you when they have a problem or issue with something.