Thread: Trying not to crawl back...

in June my first love broke up with me in June before our 1 yr anniversary. She messed around with 3 other guys. Treated me like crap the whole time she had somebody else paying attention to her. Now that her reserves of drooling men are gone suddenly im Mr.wonderful again. Yesterday she confessed to my best friend she wants me back. Due to the public humiliation she puts me thru(i will NOT be posting that here) Even mentioning the possibility of taking her back will crush my rep with my friends....Thats why somebody here will give me that kick in the rear i need lol

Well, I can say this. If she treats you like crap, she's not worth your time. After all she put you through, I would say a flat "NO!" to taking her back. Be better than that. Let her see what her actions have brought her.

Thank you...i just needed to hear one sensible voice :).

Please prove me wrong and don't go back to her -_-

So many people I know go through the same situation and continue to go back... I give all the advice I can, yet it never works. Just don't do it, it is not worth it. That feeling you think you feel isn't love, it is loneliness and a want to be with anyone. Find someone better to fill the void and move on with a life that will be happier than if you went back to her.

I know it's hard. Trust me, I do. And when you love somebody so much, not even a lifetime of dishonesty seems like an important thing. You would forgive them ANYTHING. But don't. You are better than that. There is no point going back to a relationship in which the other person made so many mistakes, the whole relationship is based in "ok let's just cover up your mistakes with dirt and move on". When a wound aches, there's no way you can be with the other person. You will probably blame yourself. Or, blame them and spend the whole relationship trying to forgive the other person, which isn't healthy either.

I know you will find the one. You'll know when she looks at you :) everyone's got a love. Don't let mean people do you wrong!

I don't exactly have much advice except that I have been in something rather similar to that.

Keep your head up and don't let yourself sink down to her level by going back to her.

Please don't go back to her. That wouldn't be wise. If someone treats you like that, then they're not worth your time.

Originally Posted by Heartless Angel

Due to the public humiliation she puts me thru(i will NOT be posting that here)l

Did she take the glass jar she was apparently keeping your balls in and smash it on the ground in front of everyone or something?

Cause I've been there.

Man up and don't crawl back to her. Have her come back to you.

I have to deal with this enough from a IRL friend who was cheated on, but is still supposedly "in love" with the guy. For the love of god, do not go back to her. Find someone better. (but don't go looking for someone better, you'll just stumble upon them.)

I agree with Jo. Just focus on yourself and making yourself happy. The one you're meant to be with will come in time. It's just when you least expect it. :3

Walk straight up to that motherfucker, look her dead in the eyes, and say, "Go fuck yourself, bitch. I'm sure you do it every night, anyway."

Seriously, though. She sounds like a bitch. Don't touch her, man.

Er, might be best NOT to do that. Antagonizing someone like this is probably an unhealthy venture.