Official Love Advice Thread

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Originally Posted by Glitchipedia

Okay, so there's this girl. She and I have known each other our whole lives (I'm eighteen, she's seventeen), and I'm pretty sure I've been in love with her that whole time. Just the other night, I finally got up the nerve to actually tell her so. She was surprised at first, but seemed to recover quickly and told me she thought that was sweet of me to say.

Thing is, I'm pretty sure she still has a boyfriend. When I asked her about him before, she talked as though their relationship wasn't "serious", but I couldn't be sure if I was misinterpreting. Aware of this possibility, I said prior to my confession that the timing was probably inappropriate, but I didn't know if I'd get another chance (this girl is awfully hard to get a hold of due to scheduling conflicts). And afterward, I made sure to let her know that I didn't necessarily expect my confession to change anything between us, and that I just thought she had a right to know. She just thanked me for telling her and didn't say anything further on the subject—I had to leave shortly thereafter to get to my Japanese language class.

The following day, we briefly met in a hallway at her high school where I was auditioning for a musical. She was as bubbly and friendly as ever, as though nothing had happened. We didn't get a chance to discuss this in-depth, though—we only had enough time to greet each other, and for her to wish me luck again with the audition, before she had to leave.

Best I can figure, she seems okay with my having deeper feelings for her, but she hasn't given me any indication as to what exactly that implies. If anyone can help me decode this, I would be most grateful.

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This can be taken for either two things.....1.) She doesn't like you and she's trying to pretend like nothing happened (Wants to stay friends), or 2.) She does like you and is in shock, but sadly, it's probally 1.

Hmmm, I'd say wait a bit, and when you think you're ready, ask her about it! See her honest response. If she says she's fine with it like before, just tell her to answer honestly. There's nothing worse than getting lied to... Hopefully this helps! I love romance and know a lot about it....if it doesn't sorry! ^^ But Hey! Good Luck~! :kawaii:

Well, there's a girl that likes me more and more every day. So much so that she is becoming stalkerish. I'm friends with her so I don't want to hurt her. How do I tell her no without hurting her?

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Originally Posted by The Spaceking

Well, there's a girl that likes me more and more every day. So much so that she is becoming stalkerish. I'm friends with her so I don't want to hurt her. How do I tell her no without hurting her?

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Put her in the friend zone! Talk about how great it is being friends and how it would change everything if you started dating. Imply that she would lose you as a friend if you got in a relationship.

@TheKinttingno. , Well she has already professesd her love to me in 10+ notes, and asked me if I like her.

@The Spaceking Take her out on one date, give it a try. It may suprise you.

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Originally Posted by The Spaceking

@TheKinttingno. , Well she has already professesd her love to me in 10+ notes, and asked me if I like her.

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She professed her love for you in ten notes?

Dude.. be careful. I dated a girl like that. It was fun at first but.. its gonna be a messy break up if you go out.

I don't know if this belongs here, but...
I've liked someone for a long time. Recently, we were talking on Facebook, and after I logged off, he sent me a message telling me that he loved me. I like him a lot, but I'm not in love with him, so I have no idea what I should say.

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Originally Posted by Egghatch

I don't know if this belongs here, but...
I've liked someone for a long time. Recently, we were talking on Facebook, and after I logged off, he sent me a message telling me that he loved me. I like him a lot, but I'm not in love with him, so I have no idea what I should say.

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Give him a chance! Of course you're not in love with him, that comes after being in a relationship for a while. If you think he's a cool dude, give him a chance.

umm..
so.
some of you know that i've been in a long term relationship(3 years) and am engaged.
but sometimes, i don't know if this is what i want anymore.
and i get scared.
scared of being alone again, scared of hurting the one that i love more than anything in this world, scared of what everyone will say to me and what they'll all think....
i know i say "dgaf" a lot, but when it comes to jake(finance), i really care what he thinks about me. i never want to say the wrong thing to him, so i rarely actually tell him how i feel.
i think my biggest problem is that we're too busy for each other now. i'm really fucking needy (even a bit selfish) when it comes to spending time with people, and the more i like/love someone the more time i need with them. and since we both have jobs, and his being full time i don't get to spend all the time i want to with him.
so i try to go somewhere else for the attention i want (i'm so awful ;w;).
so i had made a friend on the interwebs and was venting to him about my relationship, and when jake found out last night, he was really upset. he said things like he felt that i don't need him as much anymore and that i was emotionally cheating on him. neither of these are true. i wasn't cheating on him in any way possible (to me). and when he said he wanted to see the emails i said no because it was private. then he proceeded to tell me that he shares his entire life with me and i should be able to share everything with him too. but. like i said earlier, i can't just tell him things. it always turns into a fight about shit.

i just want our simple and sweet love again. shit was like that in our first year or so. i just really want it back... but i don't see that happening any time soon, no matter how much i talk to him about it,
i don't know what to do, and i'm pretty sure none of you on here will either, i just need to get this out somehow and this seemed like the most appropriate place.

How do you tell your best friend that you might be in love with them? (This sounds like something out of an overly cliche romance novel xD )

@Sleepless Nights You could try and surprise him with a weekend away together or something of the sort to give you more quality time. Maybe for his birthday? Also, it's perfectly natural to doubt things when a certain level of commitmet is reached in a relationship, so I'm sure there's no need to worry about it.

@Cartmanland Up to you. It might be easiest to say you like them a lot and depending on how they reply you can take it from there.

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Originally Posted by Cartmanland

How do you tell your best friend that you might be in love with them? (This sounds like something out of an overly cliche romance novel xD )

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Just tell them straight up, but don't use the word "love". Just tell them that they mean a lot to you, and you'd like to see how it would go as a relationship. If they're your best friend, then you should be able to trust them. :) Likewise, they should be able to forgive you (if they say no) and move on without things being awkward at all. I've told a few of my friends that I used to have crushes on them, and they were totally fine with it. Everyone has feelings. If they're your friend, it shouldn't matter too much, and they should still want to be your friend regardless. Best of luck~

PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION SOON I REALLY WANT AN ANSWER.

So this kid gives me a valentine as a joke, right? Just as I predicted. But the day before he hacked my facebook and married me. And then all the people I asked (his friends) told me that he likes me, and then I'm just confused. Both me and my friend Meghan think he is being an jerk on purpose, but now I'm not sure... any thoughts?

If he hacked your Facebook account, I wouldn't be trusting him to any degree (Did you change your password I hope?). If he truly liked you, he wouldn't violate your privacy like that or pull those types of pranks. You could always ask him why he did this directly, to see and evaluate his reasons.

Well, yes, I obviously changed my password and used an algorithm too. And I've been trying to ask him for about a month about it but I never see him during school. Honestly, I apologized to him yesterday via Facebook (the only place I can talk to him at) about making fun of him at one point or another, which is obviously what this is about.