Thread: Long distance relationships - yes or no?

They can work, but it might be harder to keep up since some people think they physical contact to keep their relationship going.

I'm currently in a long-distance relationship, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Almost 13 months and counting~

i voted "yes" because i believe that they can work, though i personally would try to avoid a long-distance or online relationship.

Originally Posted by Ryuutakeshi

What is distance but a mere string of numbers over land which can be crossed in seconds over the internet?

I believe they can work, but you have to work hard at them, like any relationship.

This. I couldn't agree more. Personally, I've never been in one, but I do have very good friends who Icommunicte with only over the net.

So, why wouldn't it work if two people are in love?

I've been in a long distance, online relationship since July 2009. They really do work--you just need to really love the person and make sure you can handle the commitment.

I don't really know how to explain this but, ah, I'm more into "emotional" relationships than "physical". That being said, I don't mind the physical distance as long as I'm still emotionally connected to the person.

Does that make sense?

Btw, this means I voted "yes" in the poll.

Honestly, I voted yes because I am currently in a long-distance relationship and it's working out very well... But, after thinking about it, I wished I had voted "I don't know" because of some situations these relationships can put you in. There are good things about it, and yet there are bad things about it.

Some of the good things are that long distance relationships actually bring people closer together. I can relate to this because over the past year that I have been with my boyfriend, I've found myself enjoying him more everyday.

Now, there is some bad things about long-distance relationships. I think the most important one is lying.
Yes, lying.
People can easily lie when they're in a long-distance relationship. Think of it this way... You and your boyfriend/girlfriend are in a long-distance relationship. You keep telling him/her if he/she has had any affection of another girl/boy. He/she might tell you "no" and you go on your own merry way thinking he/she is right. Well, what if they were lying? It's very easy to lie in a long-distance relationship because you don't know what your boyfriend/girlfriend is doing! You don't have all seeing eyes! They could very easily be tricking you.

Honestly, I don't think these things about my boyfriend, but sometimes I do and I hate myself for it. I don't want to believe that he's lying, but there is a chance he is. I'm very careful about this, though. I can catch a lie in a split second. Even if it's text on a computer screen, I know. But then again... Maybe I don't know?

All in all, long-distance relationships can work, but you have to be careful. Right now, I'd say there is a 50-50 chance it could work out. In short...

I don't know

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I voted yes, as I'm currently in one as well.

They can work out as long as you still can communicate with your boy/girlfriend (whom would be long distance), and you both get along and such, just like any relationship.

Originally Posted by Shibibiru

I voted yes, as I'm currently in one as well.

They can work out as long as you still can communicate with your boy/girlfriend (whom would be long distance), and you both get along and such, just like any relationship.

;)

Yeah they work out.

Ouch, tough call.

As with anything to do with relationships, it all depends on the people involved. Some take comfort in physically being with the person, being able to touch them, being able to hold them and withdraw into them when needed to. Other people are able to hold such a connection through other methods (like words).

Long distance relationships aren't for me though. I know a girl in Singapore who thinks the world of me; however, I keep on telling her to forget about me and to find someone closer to home, so that when she needs to be held, she can be, and when she just wants to be in their presence, she can be. Also, there's the fact that my online persona and real life persona are very different - I'm very confident online, but not very in real life. At the very least, I'd want the girl to have known me very well in person beforehand (if anything, so she knows what she's getting herself into).

Although I've never been in a relationship, I have yet to observe a long distance relationship that has worked (and by 'worked', I mean gone on to marriage etc). Indeed, all relationships are a rollercoaster; there are exciting parts, and then there are scary drops; but long distance relationships are one pretty long rollercoaster.

Well, out of sight, out of mind. If not done properly, it's not worth keeping.

Originally Posted by Joshawott

Although I've never been in a relationship, I have yet to observe a long distance relationship that has worked (and by 'worked', I mean gone on to marriage etc). Indeed, all relationships are a rollercoaster; there are exciting parts, and then there are scary drops; but long distance relationships are one pretty long rollercoaster.

For the record, Archaic and Kasumi are one such example.

I'm in a long distance relationship myself and while it can be painful at times (I miss her terribly), we make the most of it. We're devoted to each other and doing what we can to shorten the distance between us. If you trust them, are honest with them, respect them, and can talk and listen to them, then you have a good chance of making any relationship work. At least, in my opinion.

Yes. Love is love.

And people don't always exactly have many good things going on for them socially where they live.

I've had a couple long distance relationships. The last one was with a really wonderful guy from Florida. The relationship lasted for about a year. We did get to see each other when I flew down (I'm in Canada). He worked at the Paramount theme park, so there was lots to keep us busy. I'd say any kind of relationship will work if both people are dedicated to it.

Of course not. How can you trust the other person not to cheat, if you're nowhere near them. They can say you're the only one for them, and as soon as you leave, they bring over someone they met.