Thread: Dating Pet Peeves??

I'd never date anyone tall. Also, people who chew with their mouth open.

I couldn't date anyone who isn't intelligent, and who doesn't have any interests in intellectual pursuits.
Especially politics. Just do not understand people who don't have at least some interest in it, and I also talk a lot about it, to the point that I probably couldn't date someone with vastly different political views either because we'd fight all the time.

I and my family don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, and I'd like someone that didn't do them either. I'm also not religious, so I don't think I could handle someone that was evangelical and made me attend church, etc. Someone that isn't too stubborn, and willing to listen to what I have to say. What I mean is, when I say stop, please stop, or if I say to do something a different way to get a better result, do it. Someone that doesn't have many family issues. I grew up in a home where my parents didn't divorce, and they didn't make a habit of fighting. While I'm sorry for people that do have issues, in my experience, they tend to want their significant other to "fill the void" of the missing parent(s), and I don't want to be someone's mother.

Originally Posted by Jo The Marten

Someone that doesn't have many family issues. I grew up in a home where my parents didn't divorce, and they didn't make a habit of fighting. While I'm sorry for people that do have issues, in my experience, they tend to want their significant other to "fill the void" of the missing parent(s), and I don't want to be someone's mother.

One of my pet peeves is people who make these generalizations about people whose parents are divorced or who have "family issues."
Not all family issues are the same, you know. And everybody copes with them differently. I know that I am not looking for someone who to be my "daddy" or my "mommy"; in fact, the fact that my bio dad was such a control freak means I tend to avoid people like that like the plague.

I was afraid of upsetting someone. I didn't intend on making a generalization, it was more of an "in my experience" statement. I've had that sort of thing happen to me on multiple occasions. I apologize, I have offended you. Forgive me?

Actually, that message probably won't do me any good. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone. I'll take back the parenting issue and just say that I don't like people that feel the need to use a boyfriend or a girlfriend to fill a void. I've had it happen to me, and the reason it happened was because my boyfriend at the time had an abusive father, and no mother. But voids appear in different situations. I truly am sorry.

I'm okay with drinking as long as they aren't lazy drunks.

preferably and I also really like good conversationalists and not people with phones seemingly always glued to their hand.

Originally Posted by Jo The Marten

I was afraid of upsetting someone. I didn't intend on making a generalization, it was more of an "in my experience" statement. I've had that sort of thing happen to me on multiple occasions. I apologize, I have offended you. Forgive me?

Actually, that message probably won't do me any good. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone. I'll take back the parenting issue and just say that I don't like people that feel the need to use a boyfriend or a girlfriend to fill a void. I've had it happen to me, and the reason it happened was because my boyfriend at the time had an abusive father, and no mother. But voids appear in different situations. I truly am sorry.

It's okay. I didn't mean for my reply to sound as angry as it did.
I understand that it's probably a personal thing, but that's why I think it's good to differ between situations, because people are different.
In my case, while I don't see my bio dad anymore, my mom married a wonderful man the second time so I still have a "father figure" in my life. I definitely still have some emotional scars from dealing with my bio dad, but it definitely isn't the cliche where girls with "daddy issues" want a father figure; I tend to steer far away from controlling or domineering men as a result of him instead. And it's just frustrating because a lot of people have assumed that about me when they find out about my family situation, without letting me explain. It's to the point where I'm often careful who I tell these things to now.

Originally Posted by The Mocker

I'm okay with drinking as long as they aren't lazy drunks.

This is how I feel about alcohol and also marijuana.
If you like those things occasionally, fine; in fact, sometimes I do, too. But I don't want someone who is drunk and/or stoned all the time.

Well I ould never date someone who is taller than me or someone who's sheltered by there parents.

I wouldn't date an excessively serious woman without sense of humor.

But I don't spit in the sky. Not long ago, I thought I'd never date a member of a political party... and I did.

Smoking is a big one. I don't like smoking, and I admit that some of my relatives are smokers. But I think it's just gross.

Ditto on the tall thing. I prefer short girls, and by that I mean 5'4" or less. It's because most of the women in my family are short - my mum is 5'3" and so is her mum. My other grandma is 5'1", which contrasts with my grandpa who is 6'0".

Someone who brings a lot of drama on herself. I once dated a girl who would regularly start fights with other girls, then come running to me to take her side. If you're going to be starting shit, at least don't bring it to me. I'm not a part of it.

Oh, and neediness. I need space sometimes. I really don't appreciate being smothered.

I'm extremely picky but I could look past the little things, but girls need to have a sense of humour and not be overly possessive or it wouldn't work. I'd prefer a shorter girl, but I don't mind a taller one as long as they're still smaller than me. But they'd have to be at least 6' to be taller than me, so it's not a very common problem with girls I know.

i am somewhat picky on who id want to date but there are some things that i look for and avoid in girls
HIT THE ROAD PEEVES: I can not and will not tolerate Druggies (of any type), Cheaters, losers, someone who cant stay commited to a SINGLE person, LIARS, single girls with children (a little give and take, Criminals, people who oppose and enfore their values on hotbutton issues onto me (such as religion, being pro choise/life, ect) and expect me to follow what they think is the right choise by not resepect my values, idiots, extream lack of romantic interest.

what i look for in a girl is some one who is cute, a skinny to athletic body build, sports player, smart and intelegent in the financial, independance departments, fashonable, comitted individual, that would show a romantic interest in me

I hate ignorance with a passion... Even if it's just after an argument.