@Misheard Whisper; Aikido sounds like something for you, then. It's all about inner harmony and self-development, and as a self-defense technique it focuses on being gentle to the attacker (it's based mostly on throws and locks). Depending on the style of aikido, there's no competitive element either; it's all about developing the self and learning gentle self-defense techniques.
Anyway, since I don't see a thread for it, I'll just ask here: Is there anyone who wants to betaread the first chapter of a fic I'm working on? I need no detailed feedback, only a read-through and a short comment on whether or not it's good (I'm just worrying it might be too menial)