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Why do I keep sticking around?

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by , 20th September 2013 at 08:43 PM (274 Views)
Sometimes I wonder to myself why I continue to stick around.

Don't get me wrong, I really like Bulbagarden, its wiki and its forums. I think its one of the more better Pokemon forums out there. But there are days, sometimes a little too frequent for me, where I just feel that I don't get along here very well. Or rather how I get called out on my apparent stupidity on things when I'm just trying to make some decent conversation.

I get it. I'm not a very smart person, which is not something I'm proud to admit either. I like to say that I'm smart at certain things, but certainly not everything, and the rest were things I have struggled with. Okay, so I say something without really giving it some thought behind it first, and in the end come out in error over a false statement. I'm human and I make mistakes, and apparently I make more of them. I do not need a very critical response detailing and putting my mistake to light to everyone else, nor do I want to feel like I'm being attacked over it, because sometimes I do feel that way. A simple post of lighter correction would have been enough.

I'm not the smartest person, and disagreements over things are a given. But critical criticism is something I do not need here. I get that enough IRL, which has became the main source of my anxiety difficulties, and I don't need more. Maybe this is why I sometimes disappear from here for weeks or months at a time.

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  1. Niji's Avatar
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    Ah, I get that :( . I know, I hate it when people get angry at others for honest mistakes. I'm sorry about that.
  2. FANG-TAN's Avatar
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    People can be needlessly condescending here. Don't let it get to you. ;)
  3. Isamu Akai's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by FANG-TAN
    People can be needlessly condescending here. Don't let it get to you. ;)
    Trying not to, but I am quickly starting to get fed up. Thanks though.
  4. Reila's Avatar
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    I know how you feel. I stopped visiting a certain forums because people kept shitting on my opinions frequently, including mods. And while I think am quite smart, I have the problem of not being a native English speaker, so sometimes I want to say something, but I end up say something totally different, causing people to look down on me.

    So, I am not the best person to give advices, but either way, I'd suggest that you should try to care a bit less about what people say on the internet (and also irl, because why not?). If someone over-criticize a post of yours, then ignore, don't quote the person and move on. We are on the internet, people are often dicks for no reason on the internet. I am trying to teach myself that it is pointless to keeping torturing myself because of someone's rude comment, because I sometimes care too much about one's opinion and end letting that hurt me. You should try to do the same.
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  5. Isamu Akai's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reila
    I know how you feel. I stopped visiting a certain forums because people kept shitting on my opinions frequently, including mods. And while I think am quite smart, I have the problem of not being a native English speaker, so sometimes I want to say something, but I end up say something totally different, causing people to look down on me.

    So, I am not the best person to give advices, but either way, I'd suggest that you should try to care a bit less about what people say on the internet (and also irl, because why not?). If someone over-criticize a post of yours, then ignore, don't quote the person and move on. We are on the internet, people are often dicks for no reason on the internet. I am trying to teach myself that it is pointless to keeping torturing myself because of someone's rude comment, because I sometimes care too much about one's opinion and end letting that hurt me. You should try to do the same.
    Not always that easy, especially IRL for me though I really don't want to talk about my anxiety struggles, but I do get what you're saying. You're probably right, at least on what I should do here.

    Although, I do seem to get it the most here on these forums than anywhere else. It's a little odd to me.
  6. 97SaturnSL1's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reila
    I know how you feel. I stopped visiting a certain forums because people kept shitting on my opinions frequently, including mods. And while I think am quite smart, I have the problem of not being a native English speaker, so sometimes I want to say something, but I end up say something totally different, causing people to look down on me.

    So, I am not the best person to give advices, but either way, I'd suggest that you should try to care a bit less about what people say on the internet (and also irl, because why not?). If someone over-criticize a post of yours, then ignore, don't quote the person and move on. We are on the internet, people are often dicks for no reason on the internet. I am trying to teach myself that it is pointless to keeping torturing myself because of someone's rude comment, because I sometimes care too much about one's opinion and end letting that hurt me. You should try to do the same.
    i know the feeling. ive reduced the amount of comments in certian forums and sections because my opinion isnt highly thought of because i am not the person who is 100% happy and accepting and all kumbaya of every new change in pokemon or super tolerant of the "wonderfull" acting of the show even if it was pretty bad. i dont go and hate on other people who may like a series that was bad, i hate the series itself and the make belive cartoon characters but not on real people. i am a bit nogalistic so i am hesitant to some change but being Pokesevative, there are a few changes i will accept but i am not going to accept every new change so some feeling. the major thing i really dont accept is all of the new human charcters designs. Ever since Maylene, ive really wondered what were those artists thinking when they were making these characters. but i guess since i think Pink, Blue, and neon green hair is a bit "unique" then its shame on me. to me there are parts of each gen i like and i dislike in both games and show. but i guess since I wont accept all change then i have to deal with all of the flack that if i say something that has the slightest hint of negativity about something i get warned but hey thats life
  7. Zeb's Avatar
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    It's not nice to hear you're feeling this way about the forums. Since I know you frequent a section that I moderate, it makes me feel even worse. I'd agree with what other people have said and try not to care what other's say, or at least just ignore anyone that's getting to you, but I know that's much easier said than done. If there's repeat offenders you can always message me and point them out and I can have a word with them about toning themselves down because bad atmospheres are not something I'd like. If it tends to be different people I would say just think that they are having a bad day and don't mean to cause you offence, as I'm sure they don't.

    I know I can tend to really blunt with some of the things I say to people, and I guess that can often come across rude, but I don't mean it to be seen that way and I often later realise that maybe I should have worded it differently or something like that, so hopefully it's just a case of that and people aren't actually trying to put you down or make you feel stupid. In any case, you've always seemed like an intelligent person from what I've seen of you, I wouldn't have even thought of you being stupid.

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