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by , 17th April 2013 at 12:01 AM (517 Views)
About somethings I've said in someone's blog about feminism and how I said that their followers don't represent me at all.

I'm starting to question whether that in modern society, is being submissive to your partner [as a woman] okay? I believe it is my role, but why do I get shamed for such of thing? Do I alos have to keep my partner on a short leash as well?

I'm very confused.

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  1. Karamazov's Avatar
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    Honestly, I think a healthy relationship has equality between the people involved. If you're in a relationship, the person you're with should see you and treat you as an equal. That being said, if you honestly choose to be submissive, I think it's fine as long as you're still treated with respect.
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  2. Zenax's Avatar
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    It's perfectly fine as long as you are submissive by personal choice, not because someone is forcing you to be.
  3. Reila's Avatar
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    If you think being submissive is your role and you enjoy it, there is no reason to be ashamed.

    Just have in mind that it is not the role of a woman, it is yours because of your choice, not because of your gender.
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  4. Gama's Avatar
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    @Contrary; I think "equality" in a relationship is quite an abstract aim in all honesty, and one that rarely ends up being the case. I think the crucial thing, rather than equality, is respect. As long as both partners are equally respected and happy with the situation, regardless of who might be submissive or dominant to whatever degree, that's fine.
    @Haruhi.; Wanting to be submissive is fine. It can certainly be relieving to be. Being submissive and being dominant both have distinct advantages and disadvantages. It is, of course, fine to prefer either, as long as you and the person you are with respect one another and are both honestly happy with the situation, there's nothing wrong with that. My only concern with what you posted in the other blog is that you seemed to say that the reason you would like to be submissive is because that's what you think women should do. If you want to be submissive because you think that suits you: go for it. Don't do it because you think that's what you have to do as the result of being a woman: your choices should be made as a result of what you want to do and what you feel suits you, not as a result of dictates over how people of your sex should behave.
  5. はるひ's Avatar
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    I understand. This is a subject I got back and forth on. I want to be equal but do I really deserve it?
  6. TheMissingno.'s Avatar
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    I think you should probably do whatever you want and not worry about what other people say.
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  7. Reila's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haruhi.
    I want to be equal but do I really deserve it?
    Why not? Why wouldn't you deserve equality ?
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  8. はるひ's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reila

    Why not? Why wouldn't you deserve equality ?
    it's mostly because of what i've heard and seen people say that makes me uneasy.
    i learned not to listen to them but it does make wonder...
  9. Gama's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haruhi.
    it's mostly because of what i've heard and seen people say that makes me uneasy.
    i learned not to listen to them but it does make wonder...
    With regards to what? What have they said that has made you wonder whether you deserve equality?
  10. Beausoleil's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haruhi.
    I understand. This is a subject I got back and forth on. I want to be equal but do I really deserve it?
    Everyone deserves equality. That's part of the whole point.
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  11. はるひ's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gama
    With regards to what? What have they said that has made you wonder whether you deserve equality?
    Well, I've heard people say [well not to my face] that girls will never be as good as the guys. But, I've been hearing that ALL the time. It's really bad and it's people I have been around.
  12. Beausoleil's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haruhi.
    Well, I've heard people say [well not to my face] that girls will never be as good as the guys. But, I've been hearing that ALL the time. It's really bad and it's people I have been around.
    Man, that's total bullshit. Girls aren't any worse or less awesome than guys. Don't let some misogynistic assholes get you down.
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  13. Gama's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haruhi.
    Well, I've heard people say [well not to my face] that girls will never be as good as the guys. But, I've been hearing that ALL the time. It's really bad and it's people I have been around.
    People say wrong things in large numbers all the time. Don't let it bother you.

    At any rate, think of it this way: even if women as a whole have, for whatever reason, less general success than men. I don't think this is true in any meaningful measure of "success", but let's just imagine this is true. Let's also for a second imagine that this is a situation that will never change. Again, untrue, but let's pretend it is. Even if those two things are true, that is no reason that individual women can't have greater success than individual men. There are some truly inspiring women in the world, from politicians (Hilary Clinton, Angela Merkel) to arists of varying descriptions (J.K. Rowling, Lady Gaga) to sports stars (the Williams sisters, Anna Kournikova). So even if women as a whole were destined to be less successful than men, it's pretty clear that not all women are destined to be less successful than all men. At the very least, for that reason it is crazy for someone to believe they don't deserve equality for the simple fact that they are female.

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