A bit of a problem
by, 14th August 2012 at 05:32 PM (287 Views)
Long post ahead...
So there's this guy I've known for a a couple years, but not very well. He's liked me for at least a year now, and it's no secret -- I'm pretty sure half our grade knows. For some reason, he got the impression that we're best buddies and keeps coming to me for life advice. He has some personal issues going on, and keeps following me around school and making phone calls, trying to get my help. He's been doing this for a full year. Frankly, it's making me really uncomfortable, and I never know how to respond. I want him to be happy, but I'm not his therapist and I don't feel that it's my job to be, especially since I barely know him. If I tell this to him gently, he doesn't pick up the hint. If I tell it to him firmly, he gets really offended and then I feel bad. If I actually give him advice, he rejects everything I have to say and gets frustrated. (Which is why I don't give advice anymore.) There is literally no pleasing this guy.
He also has a rather deep obsession with me, looking over my shoulder in computer studies class seriously every 10 mins even I though sat way across the room from him (I asked him politely on multiple occasions to please stop and focus on his own work, but he...didn't stop.) And often he would find me at lunch and squeeze in between me and my friends which was kind of awkward...And like with the advice, he either doesn't pick up the hint or gets really offended whenever I ask for a little personal space. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. I'd rather cope with the unwanted attention than the whole life advice problem though.
He just made another phone call today and I think I pissed him off again when I said that he should turn to guidance for help. This whole situation has really put a damper on last year and I'm not looking forward to more of it when school starts. :/ He still thinks we're BFFs, no matter what I say. Honestly, I don't even want to be his friend, as I find him disagreeable and hard to get along with (personal problems entirely aside). I feel like an asshole saying all of this and I'm probably not the victim here but yeah. Just needed to get this off my chest. I don't expect to get any help (cause I seriously can't think of any solutions myself) but if you're reading this, thanks for listening.
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