I think I just changed my dad's mind on same sex marriage
by, 4th November 2011 at 10:57 AM (624 Views)
My dad's an old school guy. Born in the late 40s, raised in the McCarthy anti-soviet era, devout catholic background, critical of the free love hippie movement. One of his biggest beliefs (until today, hopefully?) was in the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman, something he was very unwilling to change his stance on.
This morning, I received a wedding invitation in the mail. Two of my high school friends, both men, are getting married some time in December. I left the invitation on the kitchen table and went on about my day. My dad came home from breakfast with his former coworkers and saw the invitation sitting on the table. The next time I'm around him, he brings it up. At first I thought he was going to be all "Hey, don't go. It's not right what they're doing." But surprisingly, he was alright with me going (probably because I would anyways), he just didn't agree with the marriage in question. We proceeded to debate a bit about it, when he brought up the whole "A marriage is a sanctimonious union between a man and a woman." thing. "Two men or two women, or two whatevers can't get married! It's a sacred rite passed down from God!"
I shot his argument down pretty quick. My ammo? Kim Kardashian. Yeah, that sham of a marriage that only lasted, what, 2 months? That was quite the sacred union. Then I pointed out the various hollywood marriages that end in disaster weeks or even days later. Or the drunk couple who met in a Las Vegas casino and said "I do!" 3 hours later. They step all over the traditional values of marriage that my father holds so high. Now, it's true. Same sex marriage will step on his personal beliefs. Marriage through history wasn't defined with that in mind, I can see that point.
After I brought all of that up, he paused for a minute, thinking probably. And he's all "You know what? You're right. Marriage isn't sacred anymore. Fuck those movie star bastards, they ruined the last good religious thing we fuckin' had." (Did I mention my dad swears more than that movie, Scarface?)
I'm not much of a religious person, but don't get me wrong. I wish marriage meant something other than you lose half of your net worth when you can't decide which movie to watch together. I wish it was more than a business contract.
Anyways, It'll be awhile before I see if he really has changed his opinion, but from our conversation afterward, I'm just hoping he has. If so, score one for me. I've done the impossible.
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