ArceusAngel

I thought I was "in love" when I was 19... I ended up dumping him on New Year's Eve for the guy I've been dating now for 3 and a half years. I've known him for 10 years, most of which we were very good friends before dating. I think, at times, that I'm way smarter than I was at 18/19, now that I'm a 23 year old bat... do I think I'm in love now? I think I was in love with Adam (my guy now) for a long long time, before I even met my ex. It is what you would call "complicated". We've also been through a lot, and since we've known each since middle school, there aren't any secrets really. I think that's what love is, knowing someone like the back of your hand, and being in tune with them. This is why I don't think "love at first sight" can be genuine, because it messes with my definition of love. We have our arguments, and we get over them. I can't imagine being in a relationship where there aren't at least a few arguments. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger, yeah? I think one's idea of love will change a few times as they get older and experience more. Goodness I don't think I'm making any sense anymore... sleeping pills kicking in... plus I get these horrible delusions that I'm wise or a human being that's worth not killing... xD

Pfft, don't believe in it. Awfully cynical for fourteen I know.

You don't believe in love at all?

I believe in it, but I don't think I've ever felt what it's actually like.

I've obviously been into a few guys and liked them a lot...but in the end I think love is caring about a person so much that you put their feelings and well-being ahead of your own...and I haven't been with a guy like that yet.

I beleive in it, although I suppose a multitude of the traditional romantic ideas of love simply arent true. Kameil's comment makes sense to me; and while I cannot attest to ever feeling proper, romantic love, I do recognise that even lighter feelings require a degree of trust and reciprocality. Perhaps Love is merely a potent extension of less intense positive feelings.

I don't believe in love.
I'm not saying that there can't be someone really in love somewhere, but I think it's rare.

I suppose I think so because I've seen my mother dating so many men and even get married, without ever being happy about it for long. I think "love" is just something most people use as an excuse to not be alone.

Quite a topic of discussion to bear anew with. One that I have many a sentiment on.

To be rudimentary, one could give definition to love as an infinitely intense feeling and attachment to a subject or any one thing. One that elicits feelings of dedication, benevolence, and a will to fulfill the source of that love for your sake but for the sake of that source of love above all. Because it means so much to you. You have such strong sentiments on it.

Someone who likes someone else may not necessarily fear being in contest with them if pushed enough. Someone who loves another may have wont to avoid any perturbing conflict at all costs. Of course, this brings into fruit the idea of 'tough love' - sometimes it is necessary to be harsh to others but not in a way in which harm will is wished upon anyone, of course. Some things can agreeably do better without being coddled and sugarcoated should the stakes ring high and exigent enough. But in the end, I would chalk up love to an emotion of very deep attachment in which everything is wanted to be sacrificed to be with that source of love (and to work to make that source of love happy) because the attachment is that strong. I don't chastise at the notion of 'love at first sight' because bonds can be forged that quickly. I do think that one might want to be with another loved one for a good length of time before making any one huge decision, though (by nature).

This doesn't go without saying that there's a dangerous line to draw between love and addiction. The latter certainly isn't a salubrious thing, in my eyes. I'm not in disagreeance either, though. Most use the word 'love' as a flaccid excuse for 'sex', 'kids', and 'I bid you adieu because I don't want responsibility'. With no offense bearing intent, of course. But I myself do not think love has set physical limitations at all (whether love in friendship or in romance). It surpasses that by a very, very, limitless and deep amount. I rather think it is the limitless nature to love that gives allowance for it to be so potent.

There is something I'd like to add to that. I don't think love can be unrequited or 'broken'. Nor can any bonds of it be; the idea for me is that it's so intense, it cannot be broken. Just supeceded by influences that may weigh heavy upon one, like hate. But in a way one could say acceptance is essential to love just as it is to happiness itself (which I think acceptance gives creation to above all - happiness). But to be less ringing of verbiage (I don't want to prate if this comment is looked upon as drawn out), I do think that love is an incredibly intense attachment to something which gives you the incentive to work for the betterment of that something above all in a very nurturing and ardent way. A very deep range of emotion. Then again, love is way beyond the penned word as far as I'm concerned. But this post details out some of many thoughts that hold to the stance I'm of on it.

Yeah, I've been in love. It's an incredible feeling.

How do I define love? Well, to me, love is a feeling you get that tells you "Yes, this is the one. This is the person you should spend the rest of your life with." It's a feeling that manifests itself as an urge to protect someone, so much so that you would risk your life to keep them safe. It's a burning desire to see them succeed, to help them achieve their goals and get what they want out of life. It's a feeling of wanting to live life to the fullest at their side, seeing the world or fulfilling whatever dreams the two of you may have. It's the need to give them everything that you can possibly offer; for them, the entire world is too small a gift. It is also a bringer of strength and determination, bringing you power and confidence that you never knew you had, power and confidence that would allow you to brave any danger, face any challenge, make any sacrifice, just for them. It's a dream, a dream of waking up next to them every morning and seeing your little child charge into the bedroom and tuck themselves in between his or her parents.

But most of all...most of all, love is about simply wanting to see them happy.

Oh, and no. I don't believe in love at first sight. That's nonsense.

Originally Posted by Chaos Control

It's a dream, a dream of waking up next to them every morning and seeing your little child charge into the bedroom and tuck themselves in between his or her parents.

AHHHHHH THIS. *my biological clock is insane right now*

I don't believe in "love at first sight". I do believe that you can be very attracted to someone at first sight, but not in love. That comes later when you get to know the person and spend time with them.

At least that's been my personal experience.

Love? I think I've come close to it in terms of attraction, but things have never worked out. Do I believe in it? Yes. First sight? No.

I'm still waiting for the person who is meant for me.

I don't believe in love at first sight, since you can't really love anyone at first sight, like yeah but not love. Do I believe in love, well yeah, I think love is a strong feeling between two people and it has a lot of differences from liking, like you can't sop thining baout that special person, you reall care for them so much that you'll do anything to see them (one time I was talking to my friend and I saw her and I practically blew him off and walked over to her)

I was very much in love at college with one of my best friends. We ended up going our for 2 years. She went to Uni and not long after we broke up. I was devastated, I really did love her. As for defining and how I knew, I don't think you can describe it. I'm still single now, 3 years on. Maybe that answers some questions on love. I have defiantly not met anyone to replace her yet.

I don't think there's a more beautiful description of love than that found in the Bible:

"Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." --1 Corinthians 13:4-8

No, I've never been in love. Had crushes that lasted for a few minutes before they were quickly suppressed though. Non romantically, I love my family and friends.