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Something about Facebook bothers me

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(Well actually a lot does, but this one thing I like your input).

It seems someone has taken me off Facebook today, I honestly do not know who (Doesn't seem to be anyone I know from my church or writers group of friends if the events/group pages are anything to go by, and my family as well. So perhaps an old school friend or people who hadn't been added to those group).

Not the only incident, I think just a few weeks ago someone else took me off facebook too. Now here's what puzzles me.

I know posting a lot can annoy people, and I have done that in the past. But in the few last months my posting isn't as much anymore, maybe once or twice a week (And I haven't posted any pictures of foods in a long while, and I don't post selfies). I figured maybe that's why some people take me off, so I just didn't post much, I am surprised no one messaged me asking if I am dead. Yet someone took me off, which is strange, it's like I haven't done anything wrong at all. (Mostly just one serious post and some other random thoughts).

This weekend however I went to a Christian festival called Easterfest, it was loads of fun and I like sharing my adventures (Sue me), my first post was basically Easterfest bound, and I hadn't posted anything in almost two days, when I got home I posted pictures, made a post how nice it was and went to bed.

This morning my only post was about my computer, because it had made some alarm noise (Seems like the fan needed to be clean, all clear for now), and in reality I only made 4-5 posts (Which is still less then I used to post last year), and then my number went down to 209.

This is what I cannot fathom, it's obvious this person (Who I still don't know who it was) was so bothered of my 5 posts (Which is about the same amount of posts another friend of mine, that I went to Easterfest with posted, dunno if they knew her though) they took me off. One of the reasons I stopped posting so much was so I didn't annoy so many people, and also because I was busy with Warcraft, and Facebook doesn't seem to be exciting anymore.

But one damn weekend I make 5 posts in I think 36 hours and it's such a hassle. It's ridiculous, so because I was excited about an festival and wanted to share it (There were photos, one was separated from the others for some reason).

I know it might not be anyone I know, it may have been someone I randomly added or someone I talked to once, but it still bothers me. So I am thinking maybe I won't watch how much I post anymore, because quite frankly I shouldn't have to, it's my facebook and if someone is bothered that much and can't scroll past my posts (And which I find it hard it was even in their newsfeed, with the crap facebook keeps putting on top of one's feed only one is likely to make it).

I will post when I go Easterfest, or North Stradbroke for Writer's retreat, my Christmas, my birthday, the adventures I have in a new area I have never been to before (I am in Brisbane, Easterfest is in Toowoomba, an hour and a half away, gone there three times now in three years), I should not have to worry whether someone is getting annoyed by it.

I just like to know why this is a problem? I know it sounds stupid to vent about it, but if I know this person in real life, I never know how to talk to them, if they take me off facebook does it mean they never want to speak to me again? Am I a friend or whatever. What to do if I encounter them (I might deactive my Facebook eventually, it does feel like an popularity contest in a way, and I can't be bothered watching how much I post if it's gonna upset someone

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  1. Lysson's Avatar
    I think you're probably just a little upset by this but don't worry about it. I personally never looked at my friendcount as it is unimportant to me. I personally mass unfriended a bunch of people a couple of months ago either because they mean to me irl, maybe just once but I never talked to them anyway so I didn't need to see their posts and people that posted statuses about 'how great' fox murdering is. (fox murdering is fox hunting with hounds, it's illegal but there is little you can do about it and this really conflicts with my ethics especially since foxes are my favourite animal, these people are rude to me irl anyway)

    But I doubt this is the case with you, you seem nice and considerate unlike the people I unfriended. So I'd imagine it's either people deactivating their accounts or mass unfriending and not realizing it. Or they could just be having a hard time so may be a little jealous of you seeming to be having fun. And your beliefs may conflict with theirs and they may get booty hurt over it.

    That's some reasons but they're all a little petty, so I imagine it's the first reason. Anyway if these people won't accept who you are then you don't want to be friends with them anyway, I'm sure you have plenty of good friends already. And if they don't like your posts all they have to do is just stop notifications from you on their feed as it still lets them be friends with you so I highly expect it's just chance and these people are just deactivating their account. So don't worry :D
    But if it really does bother you, you can just not look at the friend count or hide it like I have done. If anyone judges you by how many friends you have then they are just insecure about themselves. No harm done.
  2. Phoenixon's Avatar
    I didn't even know it was possible for someone to "take you off" Facebook.

    And I agree, it's really stupid if they did that just cuz you were posting some stuff (which you are certainly aloud to do, as it's part of what Facebook is about.) If they didn't want to read your posts, they can just "unfollow" you, even without unfriending you. I've unfollowed some of my own "friends" on FB cuz their posts don't interest me.
    It really doesn't make sense that they reported your posts just because they didn't want to see them... Very strange how some people on the interwebz are nowadays.
  3. Agent Gryphon's Avatar
    That is true, I always say that, if you don't want to read someone's post just unfollow them, not like they would know that part (Unless you post on their posts everyday, in that case makes no sense). I don't know why it bothers me really, especially since I don't think it's anyone that I talked to a lot, so perhaps it was someone that I didn't realize was on there yet didn't know. (I had a cousin take me off just because I was really upset one day and posted a status asking if someone can talk to me, aleast I am certain he does, he's kinda a dick and he did it right after that post, seems pretty heartless really, and my sister wonders why I don't talk to him very much).

    Yeah it could be mass unfriending, I am not sure I see the point of that, but perhaps if they have 1k friends they would have too many status updates.

    Phoenix- I don't think anyone reported me, I just noticed someone taking me off because the friend list count went down.

    This is going to sound really weird and maybe slightly OCD, but I also tend to want to keep numbers rounded up or at an even number, so if I got 209 friends I have the urge to bump it up to 210, same with 211, I want it to be 212.
    And this happens everywhere, leveling in a game and I reach lv9? I have to keep going and reach lv10 (Even if I reach lv8 I still want to get there).Take out 4 pieces of chocolate? Add another so it's 5. 149 photos? Try to add another so it can aleast be 150.

    Yeah it's weird I know, don't know why really.
  4. Phoenixon's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Agent Gryphon
    Phoenix- I don't think anyone reported me, I just noticed someone taking me off because the friend list count went down.

    This is going to sound really weird and maybe slightly OCD, but I also tend to want to keep numbers rounded up or at an even number, so if I got 209 friends I have the urge to bump it up to 210, same with 211, I want it to be 212.
    And this happens everywhere, leveling in a game and I reach lv9? I have to keep going and reach lv10 (Even if I reach lv8 I still want to get there).Take out 4 pieces of chocolate? Add another so it's 5. 149 photos? Try to add another so it can aleast be 150.

    Yeah it's weird I know, don't know why really.
    Oh wow, I'm such an idiot, I didn't realize that's what you meant by "taken off" from Facebook.

    Also, I do the same thing with using "round numbers". I'm sure a lot of people do it too, actually.

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