So, I think I am too evolved for society
by, 9th October 2012 at 12:05 AM (1236 Views)
Not as in I am smart, or someone like Sheldon Cooper's way, but in the grand scheme of social stuff. Here's the story:
Only this year I have had two girls, one girl I have known for three years and been friends with (Had a crush on for a year, she said no btw). And another, who at the time I found this out, was about six months or so as friends. At one point I asked them if they just wanna hang out and stuff, which both replied that they found it weird to hang out with guys, just solo and rather do it in groups (The second one kinda makes more sense then the first).
Which I thought might have just been a Christian girl thing. But I realized, two years prior to this I had wanted to know one of my close friend's friends and asked her for lunch to get to know her better as friends, she was Not Interested which I took in result meaning, I don't want to be friends. So things were awkward with her.
Until some people said when I asked her to lunch, it meant going out on a date >.>, it's not weird anymore but still. And it seems to apply to the other two as well (The third one, also a Christian). I asked a male friend this, and he said all girls found it weird to hang out with a guy alone unless they are like close friends, but then another male friend made it sound like the first was wrong.
So I forgot about it.. Until a month or two ago I asked two girls, (Who have much more of an excuse then the first and second to find it weird, the third is in between) if someday in the future we should hang out, something you should know.
1st girl- Christian and just met her a month before that, but we talked a lot and I liked that.
2nd girl- Non Christian, came to our church once with a friend to do the sound for the worship team. We talked for ages and get this. She is a POKEMON fan, this is relevant to the story. However it was only one time, so she added me on Facebook and I chatted to her.
After a month or two, I was still remembering.. OH WAIT. There was a fourth girl, in December I wanted to go this Christmas Carols but couldn't get there, asked around including this girl, who was more of a last resort who responded with it's an inappropriate thing to ask, of course I had no idea what the hell she meant, and upon asking she never answered.
But anyways, remembering these three and the other one who was more of communication, and I wanted to get to know these two girls specifically, asked them if they would think it's weird if we hung out sometime in the future once we got to know each other. Remember Pokemon Girl, as we will call her, came as a one time thing, so technically don't know her that well.
They said it was fine, however the friend of the Pokemon Girl (Who brought her to the church, he's Christian) told me last Sunday she felt very uncomfortable due to that....
Yeah.. I guess I was so excited to meet a female who still played Pokemon (I know others who knows it and played it, but don't now), so I wanted to get to know her more, and didn't know when I would see her next.
But the reason I said I must be too evolved for society.. Is I don't see how this is wrong or why it has to freaking mean a date! According to several, this means asking them out! All I want to do is become friends and get to know them. And I feel like society has become quite distant when it comes to stuff like that, and kinda sexist thinking a guy and a girl can't hang out. So it just feels stupid, and while I had a feeling it was a bad idea with Girl 1 and Pokemon Girl, I didn't say right now, I said when we knew each other better, and I didn't ask them out on a date.
It's just.. I hate this, and now Pokemon Girl probably thinks I am creepy (Yet for some reason still on my Facebook), and I imagine the first one feels the same as well. Aleast with the previous 3 I was friends with them, again the first was in between. And nobody, anyone has ever freaking told me asking a girl to hang out alone, is weird!
How are we meant to become friends? Or closer friends? And people tell me I should get to know a girl before I ask her that. Yet when I do that I can only do it in group outings >.>.
I should say, when I was a child I didn't play with the kids, I walked around our school oval with the teacher who was making sure there was no trouble. I liked the older people's company for discussions I wouldn't have with people my age.
So.. In the words of Sheldon Cooper, I guess I am too evolved. But please, girls in particular tell me, is this really true? While again the last two girls had an excuse, didn't know them much, but the others.. I should have been close enough with them (Okay just the girl I had the crush on, the others are more excusable) to just hang out, call over and do stuff. It sucks we can't do this, and it's meant to be weird.. And if you only see them at church, then it sucks even more >.>
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