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Combatting loneliness.

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by , 5th February 2010 at 09:59 PM (388 Views)
Truth be told, I've never been a social butterfly. Even at the peak of my social life I had 3-4 friends.

But the past few years of my life have been well... pathetic. I've had no social contacts... or friends since starting college. I graduate in May.

In person, and online too actually, I'm not a very open person. Until I get to know the person or they get to know me, I rarely say more than a few words.

It's a little sad that I haven't been able to make any connections like that in years. I usually just absorb myself in my hobbies and forget about it, but sometimes it comes and slaps me in the face real good.

Now of course, I'm at the age where I should have a girlfriend. Unlikely given a) I find it hard to open up and b) I'm a bit nerdy.

I'm not sure what it is today to make me post this. We're getting a lot of snow, so maybe it's exacerbating this feeling of isolation that hits me sometimes. My hope is that just is just a bad phase, and there may be light down the tunnel.

Hm.

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  1. DCM's Avatar
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    I get what you're talking about. I have difficulty making friends also, and rarely have too many friends. Just be glad there's not some underlying reason for it, like my paranoia (I don't know why I just mentioned that).

    How I deal with my lonelyness is just go out there with people and be yourself. Sure, people think I'm weird, but it's easier to open up and make friends when you're open with yourself.
  2. Nicoleta01's Avatar
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    I have few friends in college to be honest, and I'm in my Junior year. School is most important (and costly) at this point. I maybe talk to 2 people (outside of work) each day.

    Just start talking to people, like in class if someone needs help understanding something, offer help. I do that, and it works a bit well. =D
  3. Spool's Avatar
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    Jesus Christ you need to get laid. Srsly.
  4. Phoenicks's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spool
    Jesus Christ you need to get laid. Srsly.
    Says the guy on Pokemon sites.
  5. Kthleen's Avatar
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    Sounds like me (few/no friends, taciturn, absorption in hobbies).

    When I hung out with people I liked, I felt more lonely than when I was alone because I was the silent, lone wolf type and they'd try to include me, but I was torn between wanting to join in (to please them) and just sitting out, watching them have fun.

    If it's a "bad phase," it's a pretty dang long one. It'd be great if you found the end of your tunnel, though.
  6. fate's Avatar
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    Jesus Christ you need to get laid. Srsly.

    Dohoho. That's what everyone tells me. :P But doesn't that require companionship first?

    Says the guy on Pokemon sites.

    I appreciate the sentiment, but what's wrong with being on a Pokemon site?

    I wouldn't want to be associated with a close minded person who'd say something like "ew, this person is <deragotory statement> because he likes <franchise>".
  7. eevee91's Avatar
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    I can sometimes be a very shy person and also have very few friends, who I very seldom talk to, so you're not alone.
  8. Phoenicks's Avatar
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    [QUOTE=fate;bt48629I appreciate the sentiment, but what's wrong with being on a Pokemon site?

    I wouldn't want to be associated with a close minded person who'd say something like "ew, this person is <deragotory statement> because he likes <franchise>".[/QUOTE]

    Well, if he's posting on your blog, then he's not getting laid at the moment. Thus, it's hypocrital. :P {Anti-logic in practice).
  9. fate's Avatar
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    Well, if he's posting on your blog, then he's not getting laid at the moment. Thus, it's hypocrital. :P

    Ah, touche.

    I felt more lonely than when I was alone because I was the silent, lone wolf type and they'd try to include me, but I was torn between wanting to join in (to please them) and just sitting out, watching them have fun.

    Yeah I've been in that situation a few times. Sucks.

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