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by , 26th December 2008 at 11:53 PM (375 Views)
Well my Xmas was less than stellar, I was sick the whole time. I feel a little better but... bleh.

Due to recent events... I still can't stop thinking about all the people, well, "friends" who backstabbed me in the past.

Who does that reflect badly on? Are they just shady people who value personal gains over a friend? Or am I just a horrible individual, or someone who is easily taken for a fool and easily betrayed?

Honestly I think it's the latter. But no more, over the week I've hardened and I don't think I'll be so passive anymore.

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  1. ShadowDeeps's Avatar
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    I'm deeply sorry to hear that, fate. I know many a person would rather wallow in self-indulgence and in planning what I feel to be ill will against others whilst speaking pleasantly and I know that throws a wrench in the gears, as well as pause. However, rather than hardening up, I think opening yourself up is a good recourse to remain. I feel once we drop our outer, cynical, and aloof fronts that a certain pure expression (what I'd see to be such) lay.

    One way to another we all do have a wont to be loved and to be appreciated. If anything, I think it's ourselves we fear the most - we fear the capacity we have to be as scathing and stringent as we can be loving and caring. That's why I think it's imperative to reassure your friends you care about them as often as you can. Communication and honesty is a very effectual key in any bond. I know failure, rejection, and betrayal can incur more brooding, pensive and befuddling schools of thought, but I don't think the train of thought that one should be soft and open to friends should be relinquished. By that mindset, I've met a friend on this forum who I've never felt more loved and cared about by. It's ineffable and unsettling how close we've drawn to one to the other, but in an amazing way. All I can say is that I'd be set asunder if I ever lost that friend. That's why it's imperative to remain obstinate in my eyes.

    I wish you the best in any case, fate. If you ever want to discuss something with me, feel free to PM me at any moment's gander. But I admonish you don't give up. All problems are solved through quiet contemplation amid the chaos by my eyes. I hope you feel better and that the rest of your holiday is wonderful.

    Here's hoping the best for you.
    Updated 27th December 2008 at 09:52 PM by ShadowDeeps
  2. !Tommy's Avatar
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    I know just how you feel fate. I've had friends in the past, some that I was friend with for almost 10 years and they've stabbed me in the back. It's very painful and it can be very hard to get over, it certainly takes time to heal and recover from it. However since I've been on Bulbagarden I've met some real awesome friends and some of us plan on meeting each other during NYCC in February. I know these friendships are real though because they have one thing that I never experienced during a friendship from the past, and that is the love and respect from them. My friends now show me a lot of care and love and it really feels so good to know there are people still in the world who are this wonderful. In fact since I've met some of my new friends from here, I'm actually happier than I've ever been. It's a really great feeling!! I hope that you'll be able to look past some of those past friendship. I know for a fact it isn't easy at all but you have to put faith in your real friends. You might ask how do you know if you have a real friend or not. Well, it's simple in a way. With a real friend, you just get this feeling inside that you know it's real, sometimes you just have to listen to your heart rather than your mind. I've been having a very hard time with one particular member from here because I care so much for her that I'm just afraid something from the past will happen again and I don't want that. However, deep down in my heart I know she loves and cares about me just like I do about her. And of course I can't forget about one of my newest friends. He's one of the most sweetest and most caring people I've ever met. We've gotten so close so fast that it seems unreal, but we both had something in common, we've both had bad experiences in the past but yet we were both seeking friendship that was real. We sorta started chatting with each other and now we talk just about everyday now and it's so great to finally be able to put some of those past things in the past and leave them there.

    So fate, I wish you all the best and I know that you'll be able to find some real friends who won't stab you in the back. You know, some people are just like that though, they don't care who they hurt. It's not you, it's them. Don't let a few bad apples spoil everything for you. ;)


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